The first blog…oooh the pressure. I have a list of worthy topics (that I’m not sharing because you’ll see them soon enough) to choose from. But every since they started running trailers for the movie, Baby Mama, I can’t get the song of the same name by Fantasia out of my mind.
Now don’t get me wrong, the song is inspiring. But some things you just can’t make right. ‘Baby mama’ and ‘baby daddy’ bring up all that needs to change with single parenting. And it’s no coincidence that ‘baby mama’ is usually followed by ‘drama.’ And why wouldn’t there be drama? Two people are together (if only for one night), get pregnant and break up. Now, you can break up with someone and never see them again. But when you have a child or children together, the relationship never ends. No matter how bitter. No matter how much hurt. Folks who divorce and go through counseling at least have a shot at resolving some of their issues. But single parents just have to work it out as best they can.
That usually means that two people who probably didn’t agree on very much in life now have to make a ton of decisions together. So with no guidance, they fall right into the baby mama/baby daddy stereotypes. The mother bitches. The father evades. The child becomes a pawn in the power struggle.
How do you break the cycle? We’ll talk about that. We’ll also talk about how to have it all–whatever ‘all’ is to you.
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