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All of a sudden, poof the mystery is gone. The man and I have no other real connection yet and so the heavy petting doesn’t add (at least in this case). I am applying this as a rule in general to my situation. I knew it already. I really did. But, having pushed the envelope a little confirms that big time.

Sex is good and has it’s place, but for me, without substance that is nothing behind it but emptiness. Now I didn’t have sex with this person, (thank GOD), but can imagine how that would have been. Not worth it.

In this stage, we (me, myself and I) get to go back to high school, where kissing was a big deal, and sex wasn’t really an option (for me anyway). Now of course I have the benefit of knowing what sex is all about and I got a couple of kids to prove it!!

I’m thinking that for me in the whole dating game, I am the one in control and for the most part my sex is premium. So far the response from these men is always the same. “I could really fall in love with you!” How cute is that!?

I may be a little gassed but that is definitely the vein I want to be functioning in. Although I neither of the guys are “the one” it feels really good to be free and light and sexy.

I haven’t set the tenor for myself and my baby daddy in terms of our dating his and mine with other people. That will be fun!

My uncle mentored this actor — he is pretty recognizable though you may not know his name. Anyway I had approached him about doing a project on my uncle. It ended up that my family didn’t want to do the project, but this actor is also an acting teacher and he invited me to his intro class.

I went to the class and it seemed very intense and valuable. It also cost more than I could afford at the moment. I let it go basically with the idea that when all the elements were in place I’d be able to do the class with ease.

I get a email from this guy’s assistant inviting to me to do a work study basically working for the guy on a book he is writing in exchange for the class!!

I am really psyched and am gearing up to get my ass kicked into shape – in terms of my career as an actor, writer, producer, and whatever else I want to do as I evolve in my truth and my power without apology or hiding.

amen people amen

In college I had a little crush on him ’cause he was sooo cute, but young. I think he was a freshman when i was a senior. I was heavy into political organizing and sometimes he and his friends would show up to events and (seriously) we’d all get excited (the female organizers that is) but they (the cute young boys) weren’t consistently down (understandably so we were too intense for our damn selves).

It was kind of magical to reconnect the way we did…

I was at the Griffith Observatory with my friend and her kids. We were waiting on another friend, but we were on the lower level. I had this feeling we should go upstairs so that we didn’t miss the friend and her kids. I just felt that they would arrive any minute. So we went upstairs. I was sitting on the steps of the Observatory for maybe 5 minutes or less and these two cats walk up and one is very handsome and looks familiar…

I said, “You look familiar?” and he said, “Tana?” (He said that he said Tanayi but I didn’t hear the yi) Anyway I almost fell over…I did knew this cat. And he looked exactly like he did in college but now he is 35 yrs old (plenty grown) and had gray in his beard stubble.

We hung out (I mean hung out) for the next 2-3 days… we kissed and touched…nothing too heavy…I so could face him and myself the next day (which was awesome). It was sexy and fun and funny…

He is the first person I’ve been with besides my ex in 9 years?!! Crazy and lovely.

Now I think of him and get excited, wish he was around to hang with, but am also glad that he is not. He went back to NYC where he lives. I get very serious very quickly (that is my MO) and right now I just need to chill…

There is someone else here in LA that I’d really like to get to know. And I want to be free to do that. This time around it is all about the heart and trusting it. My sex has gotten me into trouble in the past and still can. She is not leading this show no mo’.

I went out with another gentleman last night and like him in a friend capacity, but I do not feel him at all. He is handsome and manly (in a nice way), but there is no spark for me. It was nice to feel the difference. Now I have a source of comparison. If I were to fool around with this guy it would be a conscious decision to get off but be disconnected.

I have feelings and energy for my friend from college. I am curious about our reconnection. And, I am very curious about this other cat (I have yet to go out with this guy).

In terms of my feelings and building the life I want, right now I am commited to being open to what I feel and trusting it.